Good morning, we're going through the book, "The Wealth Money Can't Buy" by Robin Sharma. Everything starts with mindset. Whether it's improving health, relationships, finances, or spirituality, the foundation is always in the way we think. Our thoughts shape our reality, and by becoming more aware of what we allow into our minds, we can start making intentional shifts.
It's about taking control and choosing to focus on positive, growth-oriented thoughts rather than letting negative or limiting beliefs take over. The words we speak and the thoughts we entertain directly influence our actions and outcomes.
So going back to the book, I wasn't suppose to go over this chapter because I don't agree with all of it, but I want to tell you why I don't agree with it.
Be The Grown Up In The Room
What does that mean to be a grown up in the room?
"It reminds me that no one other than you will ultimately make your life better. No help is on the way. No savior in shining armor will magically show up to place a silver spoon in your mouth. No brigade of helpers or Calvary of rescuers is in route to make you into all you've ever wanted to become as a human. Nobody's going to mold you into your reality, into something special, exciting and fulfilling".
THE CHEF
There was this man in South Africa who he ran with a gang but he decided that he no longer wanted to be a part of it because too many people lost their lives. So he went into a restaurant and got to know the owner. He decided to break free from the gang and worked hard in the restaurant because he wanted a different life. The man is now an incredible chef of one of the world's top 50 restaurants in Africa.
"The chef said, 'I had to change. I realized no one was going to do it for me so I had to do it by myself"'.
"You really do need to be the one to help yourself and assume absolute responsibility for the way that your life looks, because in the room of life you are the grown up now".
I don't totally agree with that because it almost insinuates that you can do it all by yourself and that you are the only one that can make your life better.
You can go fast on your own, but you'll go farther if you go with other people.
I don't believe that we're meant to do life alone. For example, so many people battle with mental illness or loneliness. People need people. And remember that "Hurt people, hurt people".
When people hurt us, it's important to remember that everyone is human and makes mistakes. While trust is essential in relationships, if someone continuously causes harm, it might be a sign that they aren't the right people to have in your close circle.
It's not about holding resentment but recognizing when it's time to surround yourself with people who align with your values and support your growth. Sometimes, part of that process includes finding a new crowd that better fits where you're headed in life.
"No help is on the way".
Isolation can sometimes feel like a protective measure when we've been hurt, but long-term, it can lead to loneliness, depression, or sadness. We're inherently social beings, meant to connect, share, and grow together. While it’s important to set boundaries with those who hurt us, it’s equally important to seek out healthy, supportive relationships rather than completely withdrawing.
Finding the right community might take time, but it's worth it because we thrive when we have people who uplift and encourage us. Life is meant to be shared with others—it's part of how we find meaning and joy.
STORY TIME
I sat around a table three nights ago at church. Our church has an event called "KNOW" where you can get to know what the church stands for, know the background behind the church, and meet some people at the church.
We're table leaders so we got to meet eight new people. Everybody there wanted friends, wanted a connection, and they all needed a community. They were lonely and they wanted to find people to do life with. And so I get what the author said about being an adult, but most people usually blame, shame, and justify their past.
Remember that we're not meant to do life alone, and there are people that can come and also help save you.
It can be an accountability partner or a life coach. You can surround yourself with the right people and the right community. My husband's friend went through a ton of addiction for a majority of his life, but now he goes into those AA meetings. That's his support system and he loves to be around that community. They trust each other and they hold each other accountable.
Having people you trust during life's toughest moments is invaluable. These are the ones who stand by you, not because it's easy, but because they truly care. It's in those hard times that you really see who your true friends are.
Surrounding yourself with people like that is a key part of building wealth that money can't buy. These are relationships based on trust, loyalty, and love.
Yes, I agree that you do have to be the adult in the room, but you aren't meant to do life alone. You're not meant to sit in sadness looking at the past.
"Assume absolute personal responsibility for where you're going in your life".
That's actually where you draw a line in the sand. You can be an adult in the room of life by not blaming other people for your past and by assuming responsibility and accountability.
It's actually all right to be the adult and go after what you want, but don't blame anybody from the past. Take the next step. You can absolutely make progress on your own, but at some point, community becomes essential. No one succeeds in isolation forever.
The right people can provide support, encouragement, and perspective during those challenging moments. It’s about recognizing that we all need others to help us along the way.
Never think that no help is on their way, no savior and shining armor will magically show up. Yes, waiting for someone to come and save you can lead to disappointments, but if we don't open up to receiving support then nobody will be able to step in. It's about building trust and letting others into your journey.
Doing life with others doesn’t mean you’re weak or dependent, it means you’re smart enough to recognize that shared strength is far more powerful than doing it alone.
Community enriches life, and when you allow others in, you create space for deeper connections and mutual support.
I'm excited to go through this book with all of you. Thank you for tuning in! You can visit us at ketomomsecrets.com, look for book club or how to get started. Have a wonderful day and I'll talk to you soon.
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